Part 3: Your Mom
Maybe the biggest threat to your security is your Mom. Hey, we all love mom but don’t let her on Facebook. Just don’t. Here’s the problem…she doesn’t sign up on Facebook as your mom…she signs up as an individual using a name from her past. She’s not just your Mom now…
The Maiden Name
You mom just sent you a friend request as Mary Jones Smith…her maiden name of Jones is now visible to everyone. And I mean everyone! It’s in her freaking name…right there in search results. Who cares? It’s just a maiden name, I mean no one ever asks for……OH SH**! NOOOO! DAMN DAMN!
Exactly…every financial institution I have ever dealt with uses that as one of the identifiers. “We need to verify your account sir…what is your bday and your mom’s maiden name?” Both of those might be right there on your Facebook account visible to all friends of friends or friends that you don’t really know. See part 1.
And another question that pops up: ‘what is your spouse’s mother’s maiden name’? Is their mom on Facebook too?
Just Don’t Accept Mom as a Friend
It’s gonna break her heart…but deny her as a friend and you’re ok, right? Wrong. She’s become friends with the rest of your family and friends so they will see that maiden name one way or the other. And every day more and more people are joining and women probably use their maiden name 90% of the time at least. That way they can reconnect with people who knew them by the former. Great for them…potentially a huge headache for you and your identity.
What you can do
Not much. Get her not to join or bury her in the backyard. Only kidding Mom. But at least tell her not to join under her full name. Make sure her settings block friends of friends, etc. Good luck accomplishing all of that. Financial institutions are going to have to remove that as a security question on very account. It’s too easy to find now. I almost hesitated including this because of it. The sacred ‘maiden name’…visible to any thief.